Warikoo ends his thread with something that deserves to be said as clearly as possible. This is not a thread against parents. Our parents had hard, demanding lives. Survival was the priority. Life did not offer them many options. Their perspective was shaped by a world that looked completely different from the one we inherited. They wanted for us exactly what we want for ourselves. They simply did not always have the tools, the language, or the emotional vocabulary to give it to us in the way we needed.
As children, the invitation is to start by understanding why parents behave the way they do. To appreciate where they came from before judging how they arrived. And as parents, the invitation is equally clear. Recognize that there are multiple ways to reach the same outcome. Trust your children to experiment, to fail, and to find their own way through.
